"Life is what happens, while you're busy making plans" ~John Lennon


My 25 year old self would be shocked at my life right now. She had so much planned. She set this timeline of who, what, where, why and by when...Married by 30. Then take a year to settle into our new life and enjoy each other. A baby, maybe twins by year 2 of marriage. Then buy dream home and live happily ever after. Retire early to travel. Finally, live to be 100 and see our great-great grandchildren. Sounds like an awesome life right!? I've always been a dreamer...

Who knew the story of my life would read like it does today? I had no idea I would be 38 when I got married. That I would be trying to conceive our 1st child while knocking on 40's door. Some things you have a little control over like schooling, career, but some of those life goals, like growing a family, are out of your hands. And it doesn't help that patience has always been my Achilles heel. This past year has taught me so much about myself and just life in general. Lessons that have made me a better wife and lessons that will make me a good mother in the future.

If I could share some advice with 25 year old Phyllis, I would tell her to write that life plan in pencil. There will be so many revisions along the way. Everyday won't be perfect and most of those deadlines won't be met. The only things that should be written in pen are faith, hope and love. Those are the staples in my survival kit to help me in my journey to happily ever after.

With only 27 days left in the year, I accept every disappointment, every bad day and all the tears along with the achievements, laughter and sunshine. I'm so appreciative of every blessing 2015 has added to my life, and I'm patiently waiting for what's waiting for me in 2016.

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  1. Soooooo good! It always seems like if you plan something perfectly, God has a different plan! We have a plan to buy a house first and then start trying for kids in 3 or so years.... But when does anything go according to plan?!

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    1. Yup! And His plan is always better than ours! I'm learning to just sit back and enjoy the ride, instead of screaming ,"Are we there yet???" from the back seat LOL

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  2. Phyllis this is so timely for me! I just celebrated my 25th birthday and have been thinking about the future and stressing about planning all the details. Thank you for this post and helping me realize maybe it's just time to enjoy the present and go with the flow.

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    1. Well happy birthday! No stressing! Just enjoy each new day. Life is going to play itself out in your favor for sure! All the best :-)

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  3. I couldn't agree with you more- I had big plans to not even consider marriage until I was into my 30's and sure enough I got married a few weeks before I turned 25 (He was just right and it was the right time for us and ended up being the best decision of my life!). I love your outlook and it sounds like you have had (and will continue to have) some major blessings!

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    1. Thank you so much! I totally receive that! Things always happen in the right time. Happy you followed your heart and not your timeline :-) Take care...

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  4. I had plans never to really get married, but now I'm 6 years happily married. The only thing I might of wrote down in my mind when I was a kid was to never have kids. I'm still have don't have any and not planning to have any in the near future. it's decision that my husband and I made clearly. Ok..if it happens, it happens, but not that I'm going to plan to have kids. But I wish you well when you the first little angel of yours arrives.

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  5. I love when people say "happily married." Congrats on your love!! Life is so much better when its enjoyed. If you have kids, cool, if not then just keep having fun and loving each other. That's what matters most. That's what we are doing now. We will see what the next chapter holds :-) Thanks again for stopping by and showing love!

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  6. I know we set our goals with timeline and sometime it doesn't go as we have planned but life moves on. We need to be positive and whatever it comes, we need to accept that. Thanks for sharing this post with us.

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    1. Very true! Life is unpredictable! You have to roll with the punches and just enjoy it the best way you can. Thanks for stopping by.

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  7. Lol! I agree with you about making plans. Getting married later in life is so wonderful because of the maturity you can bring to it.

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    1. Totally agree!! I have to say marriage now, for me, is the best! I'm more understanding and less rigid. I think who I am today is better marriage material and same for my husband :-) Thanks!

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  8. This is wonderful! I thought my husband and I would have children by now. Although we don't have infertility, I had a lot of health issues that stopped us. Everything else has happened kind of the way we hoped, but how did we end up in Georgia away from all of our family?! Definitely all God's doing on that one. I love this post though and it definitely made me reflect on some of the things that have changed for me over the years.

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    1. Sounds like life took you down a wonderfully, unexpected road. Sorry about the health issues, but I'm sure it's brought you both closer. I wish you all the best and MORE for the future. You have been a big inspiration as far as my health goals. Keep up the great work!

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  9. Amen! It's definitely ok to dream, but we can't get too disappointed when thinks don't ultimately end up the way we planned.

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  10. Preach. Preach. Preach. I figured I would be married in my 20s, didn't really date someone until my early 30's, decided he was the one without really making sure that he was in board with that, and spent 2 years trying to put a square peg in a round hole: we were not for each other. I met the right one at almost 37, got married at 39, had my son at 41. Never ever ever thought my life would be this,OR be this wonderful. So glad that God is God and I am not.

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    1. Wow!! We are so similar! Yeah, life is so now what we planned, but it's oh so good at the same time. Thank you for sharing your story with me and reassuring me that being a mom over 40 is wonderful. Just wrote down, "So glad God is God and I am not." Thank you for that :-)

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