Bridezilla Repellant: 10 Tips for Stress-Free Planning


It's been 4 months since I said "I DO" and I have to say things are so much better on the other side of wedding planning!! I don't miss the process at all. Not that I didn't have fun at times, but its nice to not have a crazy long list of things to do. Once the wedding is over, you get to just focus on what's most important -- the marriage.

I learned so much during the process and plan to share whatever I can to help brides reduce stress with wedding planning. Here are some tips that I've come up to help you make it to the altar without going insane.


  • Take a moment to enjoy just being engaged. We didn’t start planning until 2 months after the proposal. It was nice to just sit around taking ring selfies and soak in my new found Feyoncé status. Yes, everyone wanted to know who, what, when, where, how, but we just wanted to enjoy each other before the wedding planning circus.
  • Sign up for everything wedding. I mean EVERYTHING!! I subscribed to all the wedding sites and blogs that I could find. I followed them also on Instagram and Pinterest for wedding planning ideas. It helps to get some info on next steps from the experts.
  • Time to put that those wedding Pinterest boards into action! What kind of dress do you want? What colors? Decoration ideas, save the date and invitation samples, etc.? Pinterest is awesome for all of that! Just be realistic. I have some things pinned that probably would cost me a small fortune. I had to learn to downsize and have my dream wedding on a budget. Pinterest is also good for DIY projects that can bring a nice personal touch to your wedding.
  • Decide on a date for the wedding, but be flexible with changing it. We picked 3 dates that had meaning for us and none of them were available. We ended up with a date in July when Jamaica is so HOT! I was dreading it at first, but it turned out to be the perfect. You have to be willing to bend on some of the smaller details in the beginning stages of the planning. Trust me, everything falls in place nicely in the long run.
  • Plan a wedding that best suits you and your fiancé, and most importantly a wedding you can afford!! Do not go overboard for one day. No one at your wedding knows how much that floral arrangement costs and they don’t care. They may not even notice it. Make sure everything you do speaks to you as a couple. I would hate for you to look back on your day with regret. Also, try to stick to the budget as best as you can. Starting your marriage with a heap of debt is no fun at all.
  • Create a things to do checklist and break it down by months. Nuff said! This will keep you sane during the planning process. I never looked too far ahead. Focused on the present month and glanced at the next. It helped to keep things from getting overwhelming at times.
  • Ask for help. You cannot do everything by yourself. Don’t even try! Hopefully, you have a couple people (including your fiancé) that you can lean on and trust with tasks. This will be a huge stress reliever for you.
  • Don’t get upset if he is not as involved as you are. HA!!! I laugh at this because this is the one I worked on daily. Just because he is not all ga-ga over the wedding, does not mean he loves you any less. He proposed. He wants to marry you. He just could care less what he wears or what the colors are. If you happen to have a man in that 10% of the population who wants to help out with every detail, bless you. If you have one like mine, hang in there honey!
  • Take time to remember why you are getting married – because you love each other and can’t imagine spending life without this person. Schedule wedding planning free days (or months). Have regular date nights and don’t discuss the wedding at all.
  • Pre-marital Counseling is a great way to start building the strong foundation for your marriage. The wedding is fun and will be beautiful, but it is more for your guests. At the end of the day, you both are entering a union that will last forever. I say will because I believe that if you put in the work needed, your marriage can withstand anything. You just need the tools to foster good communication and ensure that you always, no matter what, ALWAYS respect your spouse.

I’m a believer in love and wish it for everyone. Don’t get caught up in the wedding hoopla and become a crazy person. When you feel that Bridezilla coming out, take a step back and breathe. Maybe take a day (or two or three) to get yourself together before proceeding with the planning.

Remember, this is one of the happiest moments of your life. Before you blink, it will be over. Have fun with the process and enjoy being a bride! Good luck!!

Please feel free to leave some of your own tips that will help your fellow bride sisters :-)

10 comments

  1. Excellent list, especially the first one! It's so easy to get wrapped up in the initial excitement of being newly engaged and once the newness wears off you can think a little more clearly about what kind of event you want (or in my case, you'll have already put down non-refundable deposits and realize you don't need something huge!) It was still an amazing day, but I didn't need all the extra stuff- my favorite part was our wedding ceremony and exchanging vows!

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    1. Exactly!! Things are much clearer once you come out of the clouds. I also had a few things that I could have done without at the end of the day, but like you the wedding ceremony was beautiful. So happy to be on the other side!!! Thanks for stopping by...and for the yummy recipe :-)

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  2. The tip of remembering why you're getting married is sooo goodd!! Lots of people are getting married just for the party or something. So weird!! I've been married for almost 6 years and we had a small ceremony and dinner and we had fun. My husband was finishing was still in school and we decided to keep it small and it was really a good thing to do. It's so not a good idea to spent lots of money you don't have for that day only. We saved allot so we could get a two week honeymoon. That was the best part and I can say I'm not sorry and I love him more and more. Thanks for sharing these!!

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    1. Totally agree!! It's one day!! Why turn it into a circus? What's most important is the union and coming together with family and friends to celebrate. Best to make it doable. Happy you stayed true to both of you. I'm sure the day was beautiful. A two week honeymoon sounds awesome!!!!! Continued blessings to you both. Thanks for stopping by.

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  3. So many awesome tips!!! I actually do miss the process of planning (maybe just a little bit), BUT I am thankful to have it all done! Everything always works out in the end no matter how the planning process goes.

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    1. I don't have time to miss it. I have extra laundry to do and food to cook LOL And yes, everything always works out on the end.

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  4. Hey Phyllis, thanks for dropping by :). I was just thinking of you today and saying that I need to start my fitness posts. Your list is great! I've been married for awhile so back then there was no online lists or Pinterest lol..brides should be happy now they have a point of reference other than their moms...lol. I wanted to say tha tI love the calligraphy on your header. I want to do something along those lines because I love it so much. Who did yours??

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    1. I hear that a lot!! That brides today have it easy. I must say, I'm not sure if my planning would have gone as smoothly without all the resources out there, but at the end of the day it still would have been perfect. 20 years ago people got married without social media so...LOL! Looking forward to the fitness posts coming. For now, I'm just trying to move a little more and eat a lot less :-) As for my header, check out Rachel and tell here I sent you: https://www.etsy.com/shop/RachelTatumCreations. She is great to work with and super reasonable prices!! I got this and my PG logo for a steal!!

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  5. Very useful. Stick to the budget!

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