It's the 1st day of fall and I'm sitting here wondering where the heck did the year go! Oh I yeah remember..I spent the first 6 months planning our wedding, then we got married and honeymooned, and the past couple months have been full of C-R-A-Z-Y! My head is spinning, and I can't wait to return to some normalcy. My husband and I got married in Montego Bay, Jamaica on July 19th. I will blog about all the details of the wedding and share more pics soon, but for now we are combining our two households and trying to adjust to sharing this new life we've been blessed with.
I've learned a lot about the both of us during this newlywed shuffle:
- I am organized. He is not. I knew this before we got married, but living with Mr-All-Over-The-Place is so different. His mess is our mess. LOL! Let me also mention that I have never lived with anyone, so just sharing space with someone else has been tough. He is so lucky he's handsome and I love him so much :-)
- I married a man with A LOT of stuff/junk. Goodness!!!!!!!!!!! When we said "I do," I had no idea that this man came with so much, too much!!! He has 5 million t-shirts and 1 million pairs of jeans. Some women marry men with just the shirts on their backs. Mine loves to shop and had a house full of STUFF!!! I have done laundry almost everyday since we returned from Jamaica . This Saturday, we are having a yard sale to try and get rid of some stuff that we have duplicates of. The good thing is he had a huge collection of fabulous pots and pans that are practically new because he didn't cook. This is why I decided to keep him and not throw him back.
- I'm a wife now! Being his girlfriend was hard. I had to learn to open up and let go. Took a while, but then I fully trusted him with my heart. At that point, we became engaged and then I had to relinquish my independence. Sheesh! That was such a struggle. I was just used to doing things myself for years. It's been nice to lean and I love letting him lead. I still guide him a little sometimes though :-) Now as his wife, there is no him and no me, just us. We share everything. Good, bad and ugly. And all under the same roof. No running away. Just handling it like teammates. He's a great husband and I try each day to be the best wife possible to him.
- I will have to get used to his snoring for the rest of my life. It just is what it is. It comes with the man! After 2 months, I'm getting better at sleeping. If I get up in the middle of the night, I can easily fall back asleep to the roar. I don't have to punch him (as often). Also, the other day I realized I'm so content in my new life. Living alone, made me very cautious. I would wake up at every single noise. Now, if I'm asleep and he comes home later, I don't wake up at all. That's peace and SECURITY! I love it!
- I know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em. My husband works long hours during the week and his only "off day" is Saturday. If I have an issue, I hold onto it until Sunday. See, by the time he comes home in the evening after a long day, it's unfair to come to him with anything. I allow him his downtime. And Saturday he is off, so why bring anything up then. It's our day to have some fun and enjoy each other. Sunday is chill. We go to church and do stuff around the house. Before he goes to work, I bring up the issue and we have a nice discussion. Honestly, 97.999% of the time the issue is not even important by the time Sunday comes, so I don't even bring it up. Huge lesson for me!
So far so good. Marriage has been great! Some days messy and junky with a sink full of dishes and an overflowing hamper, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I've enjoyed cooking for two on my "new" pots and pans and I love sleeping securely next to my big snoring teddy bear. I know everyday won't be rosy, but we have a strong foundation that will help us weather any storms that come our way. In the meantime, we make sure to enjoy the sunny days to the fullest!